Why Some People Transform Faster Than Others
Why Some People Transform Faster Than Others (It's Not What You Think)
I've worked with thousands of people over the years, and I've noticed something interesting about the ones who transform the fastest.
It's not what you might think.
It's not that they're more spiritual, more intuitive, or have fewer blocks to clear.
The people who transform fastest have one thing in common: They're willing to let go of their story about why they can't change.
The Tale of Two Clients
Let me tell you about two clients with almost identical backgrounds. Both had childhood trauma. Both struggled with money blocks. Both had been in therapy for years.
Client A would say: "Well, of course I have trust issues - look what happened to me as a kid. This is just who I am now."
Client B would say: "I can see how my childhood created these patterns, but I'm ready to release them and create something new."
Guess who had faster results?
Client A was so attached to her story about why she was broken that she couldn't let the brokenness go. She was more invested in being right about her limitations than in being free from them.
Client B acknowledged her past but wasn't defined by it. She was curious about her patterns but not married to keeping them.
If you're ready to let go of limiting stories, try this clearing: Can I Erase Old Patterns and Unconscious Habits? OF COURSE YOU CAN! Try This! - This helps you release attachment to old programming.
The Story Trap
Here's what I see happening: People become so identified with their trauma, their struggles, and their limitations that letting them go feels like losing their identity.
"If I'm not the person who struggles with money because of my childhood, then who am I?"
"If I release my trust issues, what if I get hurt again?"
"If I let go of my anxiety, what if I become too relaxed and something bad happens?"
The story becomes a security blanket, even when it's keeping you stuck.
For releasing attachment to familiar patterns: Resistance and Fear of Change - This clearing helps you release the fear of letting go of what's familiar.
Your Story Might Be True AND Limiting
Here's the thing: Your story about why you have blocks might be completely accurate. Your trauma, your childhood, your circumstances - they all matter and they're all valid.
But at some point, you have to choose: Do you want to be right about why you're stuck, or do you want to be free?
You can acknowledge what happened to you without letting it define what's possible for you.
You can honor your past without being imprisoned by it.
You can validate your experiences without making them your permanent identity.
For clearing the energy of past experiences: Release Old Grief in this Energy Clearing Session - This helps you process what happened without staying stuck in it.
The Difference Between Explanation and Excuse
There's a difference between understanding why you have certain patterns (explanation) and using that understanding to justify keeping them (excuse).
Explanation: "I have trust issues because of my childhood experiences. Now I understand where this comes from, so I can work on healing it."
Excuse: "I have trust issues because of my childhood experiences. Of course I can't trust people - look what happened to me."
One leads to healing, the other leads to staying stuck.
Additional support for moving beyond old stories: Clear Old Energy From Past Relationships - This helps clear energy that keeps you tied to old narratives.
The Fastest Transformations
The fastest transformations happen when people become more committed to their freedom than to their familiar suffering.
This doesn't mean bypassing your emotions or pretending your experiences don't matter. It means:
Feeling your feelings without making them your identity
Processing your past without living in it
Understanding your patterns without being controlled by them
Honoring your journey without being limited by it
For clearing attachment to suffering: Choose to be Happy - Clear Out Negative Thoughts - Sometimes we need to clear our attachment to unhappiness.
Signs You're Attached to Your Story
You might be more committed to your story than your transformation if you:
Feel defensive when someone suggests change is possible
Use your past to explain why you can't do something
Feel like you'd lose your identity if you healed completely
Get upset when your problems start improving
Find yourself explaining your limitations more than exploring your possibilities
Resist techniques that might actually work because "nothing works for me"
The Choice Point
Every day, you get to choose: Will you invest your energy in proving why you can't change, or in actually changing?
Will you use your past as evidence for your limitations, or as fuel for your transformation?
Will you be the person who says "I can't because..." or "I'm learning how to..."?
For making this shift: New Beginnings - This clearing helps you choose a new direction.
Your Assignment
This week, notice when you're telling your story about why you can't change. Not to judge yourself, but to become aware of when you're choosing the story over the transformation.
Ask yourself: "Am I more committed to being right about my limitations, or to being free from them?"
Your story about why you have blocks might be completely accurate. But it doesn't have to be your permanent reality.
What are you more committed to - your story or your transformation?
Want to learn how to release limiting stories and patterns yourself? Learn more about my Eraser Methodâ„¢ training here
